"Life is much too important a thing ever to talk seriously about it."
-- “Oscar Wilde”
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@ Wednesday, December 01, 2004 12/01/2004 05:03:00 AM
i didn't write these but i find it quite true and meaningful....hv fun reading ...
The definition of friend.
What is the definition of friend to you?
I’ve heard people describe it in many sentences with the words, companion, love, sister, brother, family. Who are these people that touch our lives in such specific ways that it makes us stand up and look?
I quote “…until we find ourselves a partner, someone to relate it to…” – Robbie Williams.
Is that all it really is? Do I love my friends specifically for the fact that they are just relating what they want in a friend and I agree with it?
Curiously I look to my own friendships of the people about me, these are what I consider people who seek my counsel and I theirs. I grade my friendships into categories: acquaintances, friends, counsel and lover.
Acquaintances are the people that we meet at the pub and you can have communication boundaries from person to person. The lowest form being a faint smile to the highest form a big hug and maybe even a kiss. You never really know these people; their last name can be a complete mystery but when we say that mouthed hello or that cuddle, it’s like the friendship has spanned and made an impression on you.
Friends, they know who you are and where you are from, they hold judgments and know who your other friends are. There are 2 types of friends, the Honest Friend and the Back Stabber Friend. The Honest Friend wants to be a counsel and sometimes your lover, they say all the right things and do all the right things its just that they don’t quite make it to that level or personal chat or interesting thesis that makes you say “yeah man”. The Back Stabber Friend is the friend that does and says all the right things but they hold that reserve that you never quite trust, or maybe you do trust them but they don’t quite get it and normally end up telling all your secrets.
Lovers are our loves, our partners. They are more than friends but never counsel, they make our lives whimsical with memories that we treasure and let others know about. We flaunt them as they flaunt us, our love for the lovers is so grand that we don’t care who sees or judges for love conquers all and that’s what love is meant to be all about… right?
When we are lost and unable to find our way, when our troubles are the burden that we bare we seek counsel. I know that in my life I’m lucky enough to have several counsel. They aren’t like friends for we don’t hold them at an arms length or wonder about them. We know what/who they are and they in aide us with our silliness and guide us to safety, and that is why we have this all consuming love for them. I know I am eternally grateful.
In knowing that I grade my friends I ask myself why I do it.
What’s the point in knowing what person means what to you in your life? Aren’t we all just friends at the end of the day?
I guess not, otherwise I wouldn’t hold some people in such esteem and others in interested repose.
What is my definition of friend, my definition is the person that needs me just as I need them, we use no one for I am one persons Backstabber as they are my counsel, unfair as that sometimes maybe, and I guess that’s just the way it is.
To all my friends I really would like to say: No matter what you are to me, you teach me and I learn the bigger lesson is what builds up each day I f*ck up and you forgive me, or vice versa, thank you… from the bottom of my heart to the very top~
